Answer Social Media Unfriending & Unfollowing With Christ’s Love

Stephen G. Agnew Life Principles, Theology Leave a Comment

I was being called to honor others more than myself, to not let selfishness or pride be my guide. I was being called to love as Christ loved.

Tonight is a night of lessons for me to learn, and I figured I would give a peak into the journey of my heart when hurt tonight—how the sausage was made. Pardon the metaphor, my Messianic Jewish friends. Social media continues to be a challenging battleground to show Christ’s love towards others—for all of us.

The very human battle I experienced tonight was that I discovered that someone I had considered a friend in the physical world—not close, maybe an acquaintance of sorts—had unfriended me. I won’t describe the person so as to not draw attention, but I counted it an honor to know them.

However, in conflicts respect and honor is given to someone when you first approach them about your grievance before taking action. It’s a good way to clear up any misunderstandings. It’s maturity that we all grow into as we grow in our interactions with others, to treat someone with courtesy and respect in conflict. It’s difficult, but necessary. More importantly though, it’s Biblical. In these cases a conflict unbeknownst to me clearly prompts the unfriending, and so the lack of respect in approaching me before unfriending often only serves to remove a lot of respect I once held for persons with the grievance. In the end, needless to say this deeply saddened me.

Here was the pattern of my depraved heart in response:

I was actually hurt => then angry => next I considered blocking them out of hurt and anger => finally I then found satisfaction in them discovering that I had blocked them.

This was sin and selfishness talking. We are all guilty of this.

Then the Holy Spirit broke through my sinful heart, this perceived slight:

“In whatever you do, don’t let selfishness or pride be your guide. Be humble, and honor others more than yourselves. Don’t be interested only in your own life, but care about the lives of others too.” ~ Philippians 2:3-4

My heart’s response wasn’t loving others as Christ loved me, it was selfishness. I was returning selfishness with selfishness. How could I answer a perceived wrong with evil? How would it honor God to act out of anger? How would I be edifying my brother/sister in Christ by not responding in love? I wouldn’t be honoring God, I wouldn’t be edifying my brother/sister in Christ. Case closed.

I was being called to honor others more than myself, to not let selfishness or pride be my guide. I was being called to love as Christ loved, and so I forgave and chose to love in response. Impossible in my flesh, as you saw above in my heart journey, but possible through the Holy Spirit. All glory to God.

“But they violated that Scripture as well, they didn’t show love to me—kindness, understanding.” So what? I am responsible for how I love others, not for others showing me love. I am responsible for loving others.

Will we love others with our mouths alone, or will we love others with our hearts and our actions?


“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” ~ Jesus Christ

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